Adult collapse, too easy. There is a middle-aged crisis saying that people are prone to problems in middle-aged families, health and career. This statement has great lethality and encircles most middle-aged people. This statement is supported by various data. For example, there is a survey of 5000 professionals in the UK. The results are very ruthless. Age and job satisfaction form a U-shaped curve. On average, the section around the age of 39 is the lowest, regardless of men and women, and the successful people in the eyes of others are no exception.
Once the middle-aged crisis is put into practice, people like to take their seats according to the number. People without crisis have all kinds of anxiety and resentment around this concept. Therefore, the"wave"of various negative emotions will surge. We can't call brave people from different worlds to deal with these troubles for us, as in the brave man of shield. After all, it's better to ask others than ourselves. So how should we face these negative emotions brought by job burnout?
Kieran Satya, Professor of philosophy at MIT, published an article in the Harvard Business Review. His answer is to turn to philosophy, and his article gives two thinking tools.
The first is"reconciliation with the opportunity loss brought by choice", that is, what happened in the past can not be changed, and it is useless to regret. Every choice will have gains and losses. It is normal to feel regret, admit the gains and losses, be kind to yourself, and reconcile with your past. As the saying goes,"you can take it up and put it down".The famous psychologist Albert Ellis mentioned similar content in his book controlling anger, which is called"unconditional self acceptance".Dong Lingjun thinks that understanding the concept of"loss aversion"is more effective than the mental method they gave.
Another thinking tool is called"do more things of existential value", which is translated into vernacular to take the initiative to do things you like and can bring you a sense of pleasure and achievement. Next, donglingjun will talk about this second"mental method"in combination with some animation works. This mental method is respected by many celebrities, especially suitable for the current society with too single success standard.
Do more things with existential value. First, explain what"existential value"is. The article says that it corresponds to"improved value". Donglingjun can't retrieve these two words, which may be too unorthodox philosophical words. Personally, the latter is valuable to people but can not improve the sense of existence. For example, some repetitive work can exchange wages and is valuable to individuals, but it can not improve the sense of existence. After all, it is mechanical work and will not make people feel full and successful. It is particularly easy to lose motivation when doing this often.Existential value is something that can make people feel the meaning of life and self-growth.
What is something of existential value? Donglingjun thinks this varies from person to person. Take the example of"Metamorphosis"in"six chapters of Floating Life · notes on leisure".
Summer mosquitoes become thunder. They privately plan to make a group of cranes dance in the air. If they want, they may be thousands or hundreds of cranes. If they look up, they are strong. The mosquito is kept in the vegetable tent, and slowly sprayed with smoke to make it roar against the smoke. It is a view of blue clouds and white cranes. The fruit is like a crane on the clouds, happy and happy.
To the effect that some people"play"with mosquitoes in mosquito nets feel very high and shout for joy. He held mosquito incense in his hand to smoke the mosquitoes and make them scream at the smoke. He imagined it as a blue cloud and a white crane. If he did, he would have the feeling of watching the crane on the cloud. The thing that the person coaxed himself to play can be regarded as doing something of existential value to the parties, although many people will think that playing with mosquitoes is really special.
This kind of thing is more common in the story of the second dimension. Many protagonists don't even want to go to different worlds in order to have a sense of existence. For example, the king of bones in"OVERLORD"stops playing the game. He doesn't have a sense of existence at all. What to do? Wear to the game world. Some protagonists fall in love with a certain competitive sport in order to have a sense of existence. For example, Sakaguchi Yohei in"Run with the Wind", which we talked about recently, said that he felt most fulfilled only by participating in the club activities.
In terms of the first anime character to fight against boredom, emptiness and to do something of existence value, donglingjun thinks Haruhi Suzumiya, the commander of the team, is the best. Looking at the name of the SOS community she established,"Haruhi Suzumiya group, which makes the world more lively", we can see that this sister hopes to do something with a sense of achievement and enthusiasm, and leads her divine League members to do what she thinks is interesting all day long. In the eyes of some people, these things are inexplicable, uninteresting and incomprehensible. However, Haruhi Suzumiya is not moved and just do it when he likes.
Here,"do more things with existential value"in other words, it becomes to do more things you are interested in. Even if the importance of these things may not be as important as our own work, it can balance the boredom and emptiness brought by boring work. With a sense of achievement and fun, negative emotions will be diluted.The theoretical part of the experts is over. Let's talk about the problems encountered in actual combat.
Since"doing more things you are interested in"is so important, why don't so many people do it?
The second dimension is beautiful, but the reality is very skinny. Doing things for interest also requires cost, especially the so-called high-end interests. Like to play music, you have to have musical instruments, the poor three generations who like photography.Hobbies become desires. If desires are not satisfied, it will be more uncomfortable. In this way, negative emotions can not be swept away.So we have to talk about"what kind of interests and hobbies are more suitable to cultivate".
First of all, this hobby should not be too krypton gold. Krypton gold can have hobbies on the premise that it will not pay the price of attracting more negative emotions.
Secondly, it's best to play this hobby by yourself, which is not limited by the number of space occasions. In particular, the acquisition of a sense of achievement does not depend on others. Here, donglingjun doesn't mean whether collective projects and interactive love are good or not. Socializing is better and more active. However, if the sense of achievement is based on the recognition of others, it will be more frustrating not to be recognized by others. It was originally a hobby developed to find happiness and meaning. As a result, they can't recognize themselves, so the input-output is not appropriate. This is determined by the special requirements of the demand objectives.
Choose a suitable hobby to cultivate,We still need time and energy to do it. In order to love, we may have the courage to make sacrifices in other aspects, such as giving up a job with a lot of income but abiding by the 996 work system, and then obtain"meaning","success"and"sense of existence"in our hobbies.Knowing that it is easy to do but difficult to do, donglingjun really envies those who can take their interests and hobbies as their work. On the one hand, they obtain the materials needed for life and on the other hand, they experience the meaning of living.
So far, donglingjun wants to move closer to the animation field. After all, donglingjun belongs to a self-Media that talks about animation. As mentioned earlier, cultivating hobbies is a good way to alleviate the middle-aged crisis. Flowers, birds, fish, insects, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, reading games and doing public welfare are good.
Is watching animation a reliable hobby?
Donglingjun thinks so. It's also OK to look at animation to find a sense of existence. First of all, many healing animation itself is to appease the soul, which is helpful for self-awareness to find the meaning of life. Secondly, most of the protagonists in the stories of the animation world are"immature"(here is a commendatory word), in other words, they don't have any social habits. Their self-evaluation system is often different from the utilitarian adult world. Some animations even have the feeling of"returning to the origin". This can just give people who feel middle-aged crisis more perspectives. With more perspectives, they have more opportunities to give existential meaning to what they do. For example, occasionally committing two diseases can dilute negative emotions. Not only that, if you take positive action, write your impressions and send them from the bullet screen of Hi, you will get more existential value.
Personal statement: whether it's to deal with negative emotions or not, it's always great to cultivate an interest, which can really make life more fulfilling. In fact, donglingjun's self-Media is also affected by this concept. Although the update is very slow, it doesn't cater to the public, has little popularity and doesn't make money, but it coaxes itself to play, and applies some learned knowledge and theories to the practice of chatting and animation in the entertainment field. It really feels very cool and obtains existential value.
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Finally, for example, do you want to experience animation that can eliminate negative emotions? Take a look at the old article [three bad people in a row, watching these three animes together, I have a great feeling, just a set of growth trilogy].
